Addressing the Envelope

Basic rules of etiquette

It is traditional to use the complete, formal name and address of your invited guests on the outer envelope of a double envelope set and on the outside of a single envelope. Do not use abbreviations other than "Mr." or "Mrs." Spell out Avenue, Road, and Street as well as the State name. See the "Basic Rules of Etiquette" section under "Wording your Wedding Invitation" above for more detail on how to write titles and suffixes. Include zip codes on the same line with the city and state.

The inner envelope of a double envelope set carries only the last name preceded by titles (Mr., Mrs., Doctor) of the primary person or couple being invited. There are no addresses. Invited children's first names appear under the parents' names. (Invited children over 18 or older still dwelling with their parents should receive separate invitations.) If you are allowing single people, who are not dating anyone in particular, to bring a guest, you would say so on this inner envelope by adding "and guest" to their title and surname. If you are using a single envelope, you must put this information on the outside of the single envelope by adding the children's names below the parents' names or the "and guest" line beside the single guest's name.

Remember! Before purchasing stamps, have one fully assembled invitation weighed at the post office to determine proper postage. Don't forget to purchase stamps for the respond envelopes as well.

Sample Addressing Formats Wording for (nearly) Every Situation

Invitations with a single envelope

If you elect to use a single envelope with your invitation, here are some suggestions for addressing the outside of the single envelope.

Married Couples

Married couples living in the same house:

Married couples in which the woman has retained her maiden name or professional name—some experts say the woman's name appears first:

Others suggest the names be listed alphabetically:

Unmarried Couples

Unmarried couples living in the same house should be listed alphabetically:

Family Invitation

A family with young children:

It is considered correct to send a separate invitation to each child 18 years or older.

Single Individual with Guest

If you wish to encourage a single friend to invite a guest, find out the guest's name, especially if the couple is engaged, living in the same house, or seeing each other on an exclusive basis. If they live at different addresses, it is considerate to send an invitation to the guest directly. Otherwise address as follows:

If you cannot obtain the name ahead of time, it is also correct to address:

Invitations with double envelopes

If you elect to use two envelopes with your invitations, here are suggestions for addressing the inner and outer envelopes:

Married Couples

Married couples living in the same house:

Outer Envelope

Inner Envelope

Married couples in which the woman has retained her maiden name or professional name—some experts say the woman's name appears first:

Outer Envelope

Inner Envelope

Others suggest the names be listed alphabetically:

Outer Envelope

Inner Envelope

Unmarried Couples

Unmarried couples living in the same house should be listed alphabetically:

Outer Envelope

Inner Envelope

Family Invitation

A family with young children:

Outer Envelope

Inner Envelope

It is considered correct to send a separate invitation to each child 18 years or older. You may also use the title Master if the young man is under the age of 13.

Single Individual with Guest

If you wish to encourage a single friend to invite a guest, you should learn the name of the guest, especially if they are engaged, living in the same house, or seeing each other on an exclusive basis. If they live at different addresses, it is considerate to send an invitation to the guest directly. Otherwise address as follows:

Outer Envelope

Inner Envelope

If you cannot obtain the name ahead of time, it is also correct to address:

Outer Envelope

Inner Envelope

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